In any relationship we need to feel as if we can assert ourselves. Without being able to communicate our feelings or needs, we will end up feeling at best stifled, and at worst abused.
Assess your assertiveness by carrying out a simple equation:
How much do I do what I want to do + how much I do what others want me to =
Level of assertiveness
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
Counseling and coaching blog