Too often we pass each other by without an acknowledgement of the whole person we interact with. We view each other as a means to some sort of end, and we forget that we are all united by a basic need to be loved. I use the term 'love' simply to mean appreciated, or acknowledged for the whole person we are.
We fall into this trap when it comes to a relationship with others, but it is also a trap we lay within ourselves. We neglect parts of ourselves, and focus on the parts that will only serve us. But we need to acknowledge the whole of our being, just as we should try and acknowledge the whole of another person.
With this in mind, it would be useful to set aside time now and again to practice what is known as 'Loving Kindness'. This is a mindfulness technique, and it goes as follows:
Silently repeat to yourself: May I be well, may I be happy, may all things go well for me.
Then silently repeat to yourself: May all other people be well, may all other people be happy, and may all things go well for all other people.
For now, this is enough.
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
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