You cannot change much without acceptance. The more you try to push things away, the more power you give to the very thing you wish to change.
Mindfulness can help you to work through your difficulties by becoming aware of the present and accepting it. This includes becoming aware of, and accepting, your thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations.
To anchor yourself in the moment, here are two quick tips:
1. Ask yourself ‘What is happening right now?’ Simply become aware of your thoughts, your feelings, and your bodily sensations. Do not try to change anything, but simply become aware of these things.
2. Focus on your breathing: Your mind will wander. Let it. You may feel angry, frustrated, or irritated. So be it. Simply remain aware of all of this, and return your attention back to the present moment by focusing on your breathing. Notice the in-breath, and then the out-breath. Do not try to change anything. Just maintain a focus on your breathing.
I hope you find this useful. Do let me know what you think.
This is part of the Mindfulness Toolkit, and more of this can be found here: http://www.exploretransform.com/mindfulness.html
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
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