Anxiety often burns through our thoughts, leaving us unable to think clearly. Try to cool things down by taking a cleansing breath and ask yourself: 'What am I afraid of?'
To extinguish a fire, you first need to identify the source. This might be quite complex, and it might take time to discover, but there is usually a way to at least make a start. Think of ways that you find it easier to communicate. If talking to someone is difficult, perhaps you could write out your thoughts. Try and spend ten minutes each day just free writing, without editing what you wright, and without worrying about what anyone might think if they read it. (You might want to hide the writing away, so no one can find it.) Alternatively, you could draw out your thoughts and feelings. Just draw without the idea that it has to resemble anything, other than answering the question you are asking yourself: 'What am I afraid of?'
Once you are clearer about what is making you anxious, start to think about whether the fears are of anything real or imagined. And if they are of something real, on a scale of 0-100 (0=impossible, 100=certain to happen), how likely is it that this is going to happen?
Let me know how you go with this. I would love to hear from you.
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
Psychotherapy ~ Counseling ~ Therapy
Ridgewood ~ Bergen County ~ NJ 07450