A common assumption underpinning depression is: 'I do not have the ability or resources to handle situations. I am somehow deficient'.
When something negative happens, instead of thinking of all the possible reasons why this might have occurred, someone who is depressed will often assume the negative situation has arisen because of their underpinning assumption that they are deficient.
At this point, it might be useful to consider the wisdom of others. Is there someone you know who is good at coping with this sort of situation? If so, what would they do? How would they think and act in relation to this event?
And if you are not sure how they cope, why not ask them? You might be surprised about the assumptions you have made.
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
Psychotherapy ~ Counseling ~ Therapy
Ridgewood ~ Bergen County ~ NJ 07450