No matter how hard we try, and no matter how much distress it causes us, there will be situations we cannot change. This is where we can use Reality Acceptance Skills. This is a concept developed by Marsha Linehan, who created Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
The whole idea behind this is that if we have truly tried to problem-solve, and there is no way to change the situation, we will create more suffering for ourself if we refuse to accept reality:
Pain + Acceptance = Pain
Whereas: Pain + Non-Acceptance = Pain Compounded
Acceptance means -
Chris Warren-Dickins, Psychotherapist
Ridgewood, New Jersey