A while back I was interviewed by a radio station.
We discussed the fact that men often find it hard to seek help when they are in distress.
Here is the interview -
If it is difficult to listen to the interview, here is a quick summary -
To seek help, to share the burden, implies that we are admitting defeat, and that we do not have the strength. “We are less of a man.”
Instead of seeking help, the statistics suggest that men deal with distress in other ways -
1. Men are nearly three times more likely than women to become alcohol dependent
2. Men are three times as likely to report frequent drug use than women
3. 73% of adults who ‘go missing’ are men
4. 87% of rough sleepers are men
5. Men make up 95% of the prison population
6. Men commit 86% of violent crime
7. Boys are around three times more likely to receive a permanent or fixed period exclusion than girls
We need to challenge our perception of men seeking help. Strength has many facets, and it includes emotional awareness, intellectual savvy and tactical planning. It is a sign of strength to learn what our vulnerabilities are, and to work out what our most constructive coping mechanisms are.
When we are in distress, this can be difficult to do alone, and so it makes sense, it is a sign of strength, to seek help.
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Chris Warren-Dickins is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Ridgewood, New Jersey. Sessions are available in-person at his downtown Ridgewood, or online