Letting go of toxic shame

When it comes to toxic shame, Dr Peter Levine has some beautiful suggestions. In this video, Levine explains that old wounds of shame can still hurt, no matter how many years have passed. In your present life, you can experience moments of rejection wounds that might have been created when you were a young child or an adolescent.

When you notice the pain from that old wound, say (from the adult part of you) to that child or adolescent part:
"Your pain won't go on forever. I will always be here to support you."

When you say this, notice in your body how it initially felt to re-experience that wound, and then notice how your body changes after those supportive words. The idea is to notice how your body can go from a state of defeat or collapse to a state of energetic liveliness.

Remember: The opposite of shame is authentic pride.

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Chris Warren-Dickins
Psychotherapist at Explore Transform LLC
Counseling & Psychotherapy in Ridgewood, New Jersey