A healthy relationship is one that is free from abuse. But abuse can be hard to spot, especially when it involves someone you have known for a long time.
There are too many myths about abuse, and this can lead to missed opportunities to spot the dangers before it is too late. We assume certain people are not the ‘type’ to be a perpetrator, and so we fail to spot the signs when they are standing before us.
Let’s be clear: Perpetrators of abuse come in all shapes and sizes, of any gender, and they can be someone who you think you know well. Perpetrators can appear charismatic, involved, and helpful members of the community.
Know that there are no ‘two sides’ with abusive behavior, and abuse is a sign that the perpetrator has failed. Shame is theirs to carry. Also know that to heal, you do not have to forgive the perpetrator.
You do not have to suffer in silence, and you do not have to suffer alone. If you need to speak to an experienced Licensed Professional Counselor about abuse, get in contact today.
Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC
Psychotherapist in Ridgewood (NJ) and author
+1 (201) 779-6917