I love this image because it shows that there can be a warm inner core, no matter what the exterior looks like. It makes me think about our tendency to harden our outer self to protect the vulnerability inside. But by doing so, we can end up hiding our unique qualities, the special part that others should really see.
We all have to play a part, and sometimes that means we wear a mask of ice. The mask carries negative connotations, because it suggests that we are not being authentic. But we cannot function in society without occasionally wearing a mask. Ever see this?: 'Ugh, today I haven't the strength to be an adult!' We have to play a part in work, and we certainly have to with our kids: After saying 'No' and 'Because I told you to' a hundred times, how many times have we stopped and realized we are starting to sound exactly like our parents?
But sometimes we forget to take the frozen mask off, and sometimes we are so used to wearing a mask, we forget that we even have those special qualities that glow inside of us. With our close friends and loved ones, there shouldn't be the need to wear that mask.
So I invite you to choose a safe place, perhaps when you are with just your loved one, and show them a glimpse of that inner glow. You might remember sometimes special about yourself, but they might also feel willing to do the same in return.
Chris Warren-Dickins LPC specializes in psychotherapy for the LGBTQ+ community, and adolescents. Read more about his work on this page.
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