What is with your anger?

So you have identified your anger, and you accept that you feel angry now and again.  No shame in that. 

But that is just the beginning. Often we feel a mixture of emotions along with anger.  The trick is to not become distracted by the enormity of the anger.  To do this, we might overlook things like disappointment, hurt, sadness, or even fear. These feelings might be a valuable source of information about what we need to change in our lives.  Don’t squander that information by focusing on just one emotion.

Take your time to allow feelings to drift into awareness.  Just notice them, without judgment.  And then start to identify them.  Feelings are usually identified with one.  If it is more than one word, this is often, instead, a thought.  Thoughts can be twisted all out of shape, and often thoughts are accompanied by a value judgment of right or wrong.  But feelings are never right or wrong, they are just your feelings.  They just exist.

You can use meditation to slowly become aware of your feelings, or you could use soothing music, or even the sound of the crashing sea (if you don't live near the ocean, there are plenty of 'natural soundtracks' available free online).  One further option is to simply focus on your breathing.

​Chris Warren-Dickins LPC specializes in psychotherapy for the LGBTQ+ community, and adolescents.  Read more about his work on this page.
His office is located in downtown Ridgewood at 162 E Ridgewood Avenue, Suite 4B, Ridgewood, NJ 07450.  
Easy online booking is available by clicking here. Or feel free to call or email him 201-779-6917 / chris@exploretransform.com