Five shields against work stress -

1. Anchor yourself in the moment.  Focus on your breath
2. Manage your expectations.  It is unrealistic to expect to never suffer
3. Say to yourself:  ‘I am choosing to go to work today’ 
4. Give yourself space when you need it 
5. When you leave work, try as much as you can to leave it behind

 
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
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To tolerate an uncomfortable and unhappy working environment, try three principles from ‘pain management’ -
 

1. Enter into the ‘pain’.  Really tune into the thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations this working environment evokes in you
2. Become aware of, and accept, what is, rather than trying to ignore it, or fear the future uncertain
3. Try to be specific when you describe these experiences, but at the same time recognise these thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations as simply thoughts, feelings and bodily sensations.  If you allow yourself to experience a distance from these, you may be able to see that they are often temporary.  They are not the whole of you

 
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
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Three tips to befriend the workplace bully -
 

• Make eye contact and remain civil, even if they have descended into childishness
• See them as someone who is probably acting in fear
• A bully often feels inferior, and so their behaviour is a way of managing that perceived inferiority

 
Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
W:  www.exploretransform.com
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“If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living” -  Irvin Yalom

Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
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“The most important fact about a dream is its emotion” - Irvin Yalom. 

Is it full of fear, hope, happiness or regret?

​Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
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“There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you” – Marianne Williamson

Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
W:  www.exploretransform.com
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Kennedy-Moore and Watson suggested three conditions for a constructive expression of anger –

‘1.  When it is directed at the appropriate target
2.  When it does not lead to further retaliation by the target
3.  When it results in changes in the perceptions of the expresser or the behaviour of the target

​Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
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Marriage isn’t always what it seems.

If your relationship is causing you pain, talk to someone who is impartial and who can offer you a different perspective.  That can be on your own or as a couple

​Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
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Sometimes we grow up according to a family script.  We adopt roles, and live by rules or assumptions, as a result of what others have imposed on us. 

If this script does not work for you, you can make a choice to live according to the rules and assumptions that you think are important

​Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
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In an article in Huffington Post, Johann Hari suggested that addiction was a person’s reaction to a lack of connection.  If an addiction is getting the better of you, get in touch

​Chris Warren-Dickins BACP Registered Counsellor
E:  chris@exploretransform.com
T:  07816681154
W:  www.exploretransform.com
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