Confronted with stress and anxiety, you need to remind yourself that you are safe in the present moment, so you need a way to ground yourself. The Four Elements exercise is an excellent way to do that. I hope you find it useful. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr
In this video I explain how EMDR can help you. If you need more information after watching the video, have a look at my EMDR webpage. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr To fully manage your stress, you need to relax your body. You cannot just think your way out of your stress. The Progressive Relaxation Exercise has been around for years, and it involves gradually clenching and releasing each muscle group as you gradually let go of your stress. Check it out! Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr
In all this chaos, there is a way to give yourself calm. The Three Minute Breathing Space is a mindfulness exercise that allows you a moment each day to suspend judgment and fully accept yourself. I hope you find this useful. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr
All wounds, regardless of their size, deserve time and attention. This is the sentiment of Dr Jamie Marich who delivered a Tedx talk about the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences on a person's health and wellbeing.
It is widely accepted that Adverse Childhood Experiences can cause significant physical health complications (such as heart disease and cancer), and mental health issues (such as Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and addictions). So how can we help someone who has experienced Adverse Childhood Experiences? Dr Marich uses the metaphor of a wound (because the word trauma originates from the word 'wound'): For true healing to happen, it must take include a process that takes place from inside out. As Dr Marich points out, 'wounds need to come into the light, and a proper course of treatment can help with that process'. Proper treatment includes experiences with and without professionals, and, according to Dr Marich, an important component of this is having your experiences validated by someone. I wholeheartedly agree with Dr Marich. There are too many attempts to jump in and 'fix' people without an attempt to understand and validate that person's experiences. And to validate someone is the opposite of pathologising or labelling someone. Let me know what you think of this talk. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr When I work with people who are distressed, I offer as many tools as possible. These are tools people can use outside of our psychotherapy session, so they are able to calm, soothe and ground themselves without my help. The Light Stream is just one example of those tools, so here it is. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr We are experiencing a collective trauma, so you need to find ways to soothe your soul and calm your catastrophic thinking. Dr Jamie Marich has some wonderful tips to self-soothe, and one of them is the butterfly hug (otherwise known as the monkey tap). Have a look at her video here One of the most effective ways to heal from a trauma is through the use of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). If you would like to find out more about my use of EMDR as a psychotherapist, you can read more here.
Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, depression, relationship, and men’s therapy. Chris also offers EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy). www.exploretransform.com #anxiety #depression #conflict #emdr Enough of the stuff about doing more, and trying harder. I am sure you are doing more than enough. So here are ten things you are doing right during this pandemic pandemonium.
There has never been a greater risk of burnout, so I hope you realize how much you are already doing, and you give yourself. Yes, there will be people who will make you feel like you need to do more, but they are probably empty soulless beasts who have nothing better to do with their time. Go break open the box of cookies and watch another Netflix series until your eyes hurt. And if you need any help, book a free online consultation. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist, (Licensed Professional Counselor), New Jersey (USA) and the UK www.exploretransform.com +1-201-779-6917 chris@exploretransform.com As a society, we tend to assume that all parents love their children, but narcissistic parents exist. Too often the narcissist presents an image of devotion to the wider public, and yet behind closed doors, the child is subjected to emotional and physical abuse.
It would be terrifying for a child to acknowledge that this parent, who is supposed to feed and shelter the child, actually cares only for their own self-image, and not the child. Instead, the child makes sense of the parent's bewildering (and contradictory) behaviour with the use of self-blame. It is common for the narcissistic parent to recruit 'rescuers' in the form of other family members, turning these family members against the child by portraying them as a 'persecutor' against the 'victim' narcissistic parent. This ‘triangulation’ is known as Karpman’s Drama Triangle. Often it is years later, when that child has grown into an adult, can they accept that they were the victim of narcissistic parental abuse. But acknowledging this is just the first step.
Help is available, but you need to choose carefully. Make sure whoever you talk to (whether it is therapist or friend) listens to your actual words, and not their own preconceived notions. We all have our own assumptions about parents and parenting, so you need to find unbiased help that will see you for you. And not their own reflection. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist, (Licensed Professional Counselor), New Jersey (USA) and the UK www.exploretransform.com +1-201-779-6917 chris@exploretransform.com Sometimes work can really suck, and yet we have no choice but to continue. We may not be able to change the environment around us, but we can change how we view the work stress. I have recorded an audio version of a mindfulness exercise that will help you with work stress. I hope you find it useful. If you would like to find out more about anxiety, you can view free resources here. https://www.exploretransform.com/help-for-anxiety.html Book online today, telephone, or send us an email. Chris Warren-Dickins LLB MA LPC Psychotherapist, (Licensed Professional Counselor), Northern New Jersey www.exploretransform.com 201-779-6917 chris@exploretransform.com #findatherapist #northernnewjersey #beyondtheblue #mentalhealth |
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