Bullies are everywhere, but falling victim to them does not have to be an inevitable part of life. Although we cannot control the behaviour of others, we can change how we react to them. Here are 10 top tips to manage the bully -
1. Watch out for all forms of bullying. It is not just the overt acts of aggression. It can include words and actions, in-person, over the telephone and/or online
2. We all have the potential to act in a bullying way. There is no single type of person who is a bully, and bullying behaviour appears on a spectrum of what initially seems like acceptable behaviour but quickly develops into unacceptable bullying
3. Try and view the bully as someone who is probably acting in fear. Aggression, whether it is overt or passive, is born of fear, so if we just see the aggressive behaviour, we have missed a trick.
4. A bully often feels inferior, and so their behaviour is a way of managing that perceived inferiority.
5. When you interact with a bully, make eye contact and remain civil, even if the bully has descended into childishness
6. Try to develop assertive skills. Assertiveness sits in the middle of aggressive and passive behaviour. In brief, assertiveness includes an ability to communicate one’s feelings and needs, an ability to ask for things, and an ability to say no
7. If bullying arises, it is easy to create a scapegoat. Perhaps one person is seen as ‘the bully’ when the situation has arisen as a result of a number of different people, each in part to blame for the situation
8. Caricaturise the bully. In the privacy of your own home, draw him with distorted features and give him a comedic name. This can offer you distance from his aggression.
9. Try all sorts of affirming statements including: I am choosing to face this person today. I have the strength to assert my feelings and needs
10. Give yourself space when you need it. If you need to walk away from the situation, ask for more time. Often an immediate response is not essential
Chris Warren-Dickins LPC is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Ridgewood New Jersey NJ 07450.
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There are allegations against Brett Kavanaugh, and there are watercooler conversations about sexual violence. Unfortunately I have heard so much inaccurate information, I feel compelled to point out a few facts about sexual violence -
Coercion can encompass:
• varying degrees of force;
• psychological intimidation;
• blackmail; or
• threats (of physical harm or of not obtaining a job/grade etc.).
In addition, sexual violence may also take place when someone is not able to give consent – for instance, while intoxicated, drugged, asleep or mentally incapacitated (World Health Organization (WHO))”
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Food has an emotional element to it. Whether we are turning to it in times of stress, or succumbing to it so that we view it as life’s enemy, we are often caught on an emotional food cycle.
When I was living in England I wrote a guest article for Savoir Fayre nutritionist, and you can read about the emotional food cycle by clicking here -
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We cannot always change an 'Activating event', but we can change our thoughts (the underlying Beliefs). As a result, the emotional Consequences may change.
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Mental Health America emphasises prevention, and this is so important. We need to act before things get out of hand. So if you need to talk to someone, even for a short while, make that call.
The statistics from Mental Health America shows that mental health is still a significant issue in the US -
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